Archive for November, 2015

Comfort in atheism?

November 23, 2015

Worst week of my life… and I’ve had some doozies in the past.

My young adult daughter was killed in a car accident. Her death was quite probably instantaneous- she may not have even seen the other car coming in time for it to register. The loss of my beloved daughter hurts- as it should.

This, of course, brought out the religious crazies, with their “god’s plan”, “god knows your time”, etc. Not actually helpful.

That doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate those who say they are praying for me. In a situation like this, no one can fix it. I see prayer as a desperate attempt to grasp at straws when you can’t actually do anything. I accept what they offer in the spirit in which it is offered. What else can I do?

But, surprisingly, my absence of faith in superstitious things has brought me some comfort.

Unlike religious people, there’s never the fear she’s burning in Hell. I don’t have to question why god would allow such a thing to happen. I don’t even have a reason to get angry at god. Things happen.

I know her suffering is over. She’s not thinking of me, or watching over me. She’s just gone. To her… there is no more her. Just as it was at the Big Bang, and so it will be when the last proton that was once a part of her body decays in trillions of years. She is no more. Period.

Someday I will be the same.

That’s not to say I don’t have memories of her. And pictures and videos and gifts she gave me. I have those things, and I treasure them. I still love her, and always will.

I also cry because she’s gone. I will miss her all the rest of my life. I feel insecure about life, and suffering. I hurt along with the Christians in my family. I don’t want anyone else to go through what I’m going through.

But to say that Christians are somehow saved some of the grief atheists are doomed to suffer is ridiculous. They may (or may not) hide it better- and that varies by individual- but I’ve never seen a consistent difference.

Who’s stalking whom?

November 1, 2015

When I read a person’s religious blog post or Facebook post, I don’t comment. I just move on to something else.

However, I notice religious people simply can’t bring themselves to do the same. Or so it appears.

Anywhere they think they can insert their religion, they do.

Constantly, after I comment on someones science post, or their religion-mocking post, religious people come running.

I posted a nice picture of myself wearing my Halloween costume yesterday. Nothing evil or Satanic, even. But the very first comment was to tell me that I was now going to spend eternity in Hell. Because I wore a costume on Halloween, which meant I was participating in a Satanic ritual.

My reply was that any Supreme Being who would see this as the deciding factor isn’t one I want to be near, anyway. And after the Christian made more comments about those who celebrate Halloween, I posted the following meme:

Once again I laugh at the “Christian persecution”.

When I was a participant in their religion- and fully lived it- I never felt persecution (even though I was constantly surrounded by those saying how persecuted we were). Once I came out as an atheist, the persecution truly began. But it’s worth it.

I constantly read Christians commenting about how atheists are always trying to push their opinion on Christians, in rude ways, and can never just let them express their faith in peace. Really? That’s not what I see happening, not in real life nor online (although I know atheists may comment on things after I have moved on). But post one “atheist” (reality based) comment and see who comes out of the woodwork.

I’ll continue to be the bigger person; the more polite person. Unlike the majority of those Christians who dissolve into profane fits when someone continues to point out the gigantic holes in their premises, I won’t call them obscene names or wish eternal torture on them. I won’t tell them that after we die we’ll see who’s right and they’ll be sorry (after we are dead, neither of us will be seeing anything nor feeling anything).

But, when minding my own business and being confronted with in-your-face religious people, I will not be silent. I’ll just be polite while making them look like idiots.